What is worry? As a verb it is defined as the ability to give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles. As a “noun” it is a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems. By careful observation, the words “give way” (meaning “allow”), was highlighted because i want the reader to be aware that the external elements (the experiences that we encounter)of life are not the major cause of this destructive emotion. It is the internal (conflict)dialogue, from our conscious(something we “can control”)that destroys our ability to remain in a state of tranquility. Surely, people that are mentally unstable lack the ability to fully control this emotion and i am aware of that, so, this is for people who can make rational decisions without medicine.
So, where, or at what stage of our rational thinking process does worry start to become an emotional experience? As my opinion, many of us start to get anxious about things, or people, that we believe have some sort of value to us. And when we feel like we are about to lose control or access to something or someone we deeply admire, our emotions trigger a state of fear; and “worry is the end result of the constant recollection of fear”.
It is troubling and confusing to me to hear the stories of those that are facing problems, but are not seeking for a solution. It is equally disturbing to me that many people are having problems and do not take the necessary “action” required to solve the problems. Many of them are driven by the fictitious expectancy that somehow “luck” will rescue them from all their troubles and no consistent action is required. For example, Money is one of the most common problems we stress over and it is a globally, mutual asset we use. It has more control over our lives than we do because it has so much “value“. We need money for food, shelter, clothes, and other things that provide the basic comfort we desire to live in our culture. But most of the people that say they have so many money problems are the most skeptical about starting a business and will not do the research required to find a way to create more income. (Which is more beneficial and fulfilling to people, worrying about their problems or finding a solution?)
So, what is the best way to control worry? One of the things a person can do to control this emotion is by lowering expectations of what he/she believes the future should be like. Example, we all want the perfect outcome to be manifested for retirement, but unfortunately, our economical system is not structured to give us the life we dream to have; many people faint at the slight decrease of their savings account funds. Our economical model was designed to give us the amount of finance sufficient for survival. That’s why so many retirees are still working for local grocery stores as “greeters”. The second thing, of many, that we can do to control what we worry about is remove the value we set on certain things, such as, cars, clothes, and other things that are not necessary for our ability to survive. Adding value to things such as those that will lose monetary value and physical attractiveness with time will always cause emotional harm(although there is the temporary feeling of euphoria of being able to buy it). It is perfectly fine to have nice things and feel happy within, but it’s detrimental to have a mansion and the weight of the world on your shoulders.